My First Trimester Diary

Lightning never strikes the same place twice…. Or so they say!

I had fought the pregnancy battle and come out victorious. I have a healthy, beautiful toddler…I assumed my next pregnancy was going to be much easier.

After Micah arrived and the “reality of motherhood versus my naïve notion set in,  we decided we were going to wait until Micah was a little bit older to have another baby. Working full time and being a full time new mummy, I knew I wasn’t ready for another baby just yet. However, in August 2015, things fell into place and we decided it was time to move the family back to Geneva.

A few weeks after we moved to Geneva, I woke up one morning and I knew I was pregnant. I had a spare pregnancy test (don’t ask why, lol) so I used it… It was positive. I shared the news with Yomi and Micah.

“Micah is going to be a big brother”

We were all excited, even though Micah didn’t understand why at the time.

I went back to my bedroom to gather all my pregnancy devotionals. I had given most of my books to friends so it was back to Amazon to order new ones. I couldn’t stop thanking God for giving us the opportunity to experience the joys of pregnancy and parenthood once again.

With my previous pregnancy losses, I had issues with low HCG levels, so I had a stash of progesterone suppository. I checked the expiry date and they were still good and I started using them immediately.

“I am not taking any chances”

Before I had Micah, I didn’t have the best experience with my doctor in Geneva, so I called my doctor in London and booked an appointment to see her. When she saw me, she did a urine and blood test to confirm pregnancy. I also asked for a copy of my test result showing my HCG levels. Like I said, I wasn’t taking any chances. She called me a few hours later and confirmed my HCG level was 5760, which was equivalent to about 5 weeks… spot on! First hurdle cleared. She recommended progesterone suppository, prenatal vitamins and plenty of rest.

At this stage, I was feeling very confident about my pregnancy. I was praying, reading my devotionals, taking my vitamins, eating right…. Life was great!!!

A few days after we got back to Geneva, I woke up one morning to pee. My lower abdomen felt uncomfortable, kind of like when you have a period coming.  I thought this was strange as I never felt this way when I was pregnant with Micah.

I check and I was spotting! I didn’t spot or bleed when I was pregnant with Micah, not once. My previous experiences with spotting and bleeding always ended in a miscarriage. I started crying…

I started to panic, and then slowly the spirit of fear started to creep back in. I had fought and prayed so hard to overcome fear in my previous pregnancy and I felt like it was happening all over again. I called my mum and we prayed together after which, I sat in bed thinking. Then I got out of bed and on my knees, ready to have another lengthy conversation with our Father.

The next morning, I contacted a friend of mine. This friend had a difficult pregnancy as well and I remember she spoke highly of her doctor in Geneva. I asked for the details and she also contacted her doctor via email introducing me and explaining my current situation.

I finally got to see a doctor and baby was fine. I went back home more confident and just like the doctor told us, my spotting reduced and then stopped.  However, l started dealing with bouts of severe debilitating nausea, bloating, spitting and fatigue. Again these symptoms were strange to me, as I didn’t experience them whilst I was pregnant with Micah. The doctor had warned that I take things easy but with Micah growing up and being so active, it was easier said than done.

One morning, I woke up to pee again and experienced another unusual and terrifying symptom. I  feared the worse. I called my mum and also my friend Idi. She kept praying with me, confessing positively. She kept reassuring me that all would be fine. She was sending me scriptures to confess. At this point, our morale was down.

While we were in the waiting room, my friend kept sending messages…Quoting scriptures and prayers. The doctor finally called us in. Immediately we walked in, she commented on how gloomy we both looked.

I started crying again and I told her what happened and that I was afraid I was suffering a miscarriage. She said she couldn’t confirm this until she performed a scan. As she was about to start the scan I look away, and as a daughter of the most High I am so ashamed to say this but I had lost hope….and then the doctor asked me to look at the screen.

I saw our baby, wonderfully made and healthy. She played baby’s heartbeat for us, it was beating so strong. “Your baby is strong; your baby is a fighter”

At this point, my husband and I were overwhelmed and we just kept praising and thanking God.  The doctor increased my dosage of progesterone and mandatory bed rest. She was going to see me every week until I got to 12 weeks.

With this increased dosage of progesterone, I was constantly tired, so bloated (I looked 5 months pregnant at only a few weeks). It was such an emotional roller coaster. One day, I wasn’t spotting and everything was fine and then next day I was spotting again.

I remember walking home after my appointment and a friend Timi sent a message, checking up on me. I’d been meaning to call her so I did. I keep thinking about that day and I know it was fate, that God sent her to me, He used her words to convey His message to me and I heard it loud and clear, my spirit was lifted!

The most amazing thing happened after I prayed with Timi; I woke up the next morning and there was no spotting or bleeding. Same thing happened the day after, and the day after that. I haven’t experienced any spotting or bleeding after that day.

At my next doctor’s appointment, I told her I had stopped bleeding… did I mention how awesome my doctor is? I love her, I love how detailed she is, how she goes above and beyond to make sure all is well and how she breaks it down so I know exactly what is going on! I couldn’t have prayed for a better doctor and I am so thankful to God because I don’t know how I would have coped with constant flights to London.

Anyway, she did a scan and confirmed that all was well with baby and baby was growing as expected. We had a lengthy discussion about pregnancy, complications etc… she ended our conversation with some powerful words and I left feeling inspired. We had also just crossed the 12-week mark so she was feeling pretty confident about the pregnancy and so were we.

Being pregnant with my second child is an entirely different experience than when I was pregnant with Micah.

  •  With Micah, I felt amazing – no sickness, nausea, fatigue or bloating. I even worked full time till I was 37 weeks pregnant. With this pregnancy, I had all of the above symptoms plus spitting – gross!!!
  • With this pregnancy, I was meant to be on bed rest for most of my first trimester but with an active toddler, I couldn’t rest or stay off my feet, let alone have the time to pamper myself
  • With Micah, I didn’t eat for two. I ate regular portions and had no cravings. On the other hand, with this pregnancy, I ate so much during my first trimester. I don’t know if it was the progesterone suppository but I would eat breakfast at 9am and then 30 minutes later, I was hungry again. I didn’t want to eat but couldn’t help it, it was almost as if my life depended on it. If I didn’t eat, my tummy would start hurting badly. I used to eat about 12-13 times a day. Thankfully this symptom went away after the first trimester.

Overall, my first trimester wasn’t the easiest journey but I am thankful.  This pregnancy is the best thing to happen to us and we are so excited and thankful to God for the opportunity to be parents once again. Micah is so excited to be a big brother and I know he will be an incredible big brother.

I have also come to realise that every woman’s journey to motherhood is different, some women have straightforward pregnancies and deliveries and they should be thankful, because they are blessed. Others like me, not so much, but I have learnt that it is also a blessing and there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Finally, my first trimester experience is a reminder that I’ve gone to battle once and I am an experienced soldier. And with God on my side, I am ready to do it all over again!

For all the mummies out there, what is/was your second pregnancy like? Did you experience different symptoms from your first?


  • Mrs J Posted March 2, 2016 10:54 am

    First pregnancy was amazing. No crazy symptoms, I was up and going about my life till I was about 7.5 months gone and got these intense back pain that my Dr said was from driving in this Lagos traffic. So I stopped driving and started taking taxis.Found out I was about 6 weeks pregnant when my baby was 7 months…… To say I was sad and not ready is an understatement and to make matters worse I had all the bad symptoms… Nausea vomiting bloating. I was cranky and I felt so bad because I wasn’t energized to keep up with my son. Now I’m about 4months gone and though the symptoms aren’t gone yet we are muddling our way through it. But as everyone says no 2 pregnancies are the same.
    Good luck with the baby and micah

  • Tammy Posted March 2, 2016 11:00 am

    I am so excited that Micah is going to be a big brother and that your second will be here soon. Thanking God for you, and praying that my journey ends soon. Been trying for almost two years now. It has not been easy. I believe I am meant to be a mother though. There’s too much in me to just go to waste. God bless you Amaka…..#hugs

  • Yinka Posted March 2, 2016 11:01 am

    Thank you for sharing this… this is my second pregnancy and unlike the first, its not been easy, it’s just my first trimester and have added a lot of weight, vomiting, spitting, always tired. Have been so lazy to pray and do so many things. Hoping God understands,

  • Zuwaira Posted March 2, 2016 11:02 am

    I love, love your IG page. I go to your page regularly. You such an amazing Mother and an inspiration to many other mother. Second trimester was th easiest, I had much energy, no too much sleep or fatigue unlike first trimester, hunger for food dropped unlike 1st Trimester that I had to eat as early as 6am. Am in my third trimester now counting down to see my babies. My husband and I are expecting triplets, two boys and a girl we give all the Glory and Praise to God almighty.
    We love looking at Micah’s videos, you sure gonna have a beautiful baby girl. Congratulations, we all are waiting for her arrival. May God continue to bless your family. Amen.

    Zuwaira, IG name @Morayomie

  • Faith Posted March 2, 2016 11:16 am

    Your story is just like mine,though abit different with the fact that being a pastors wife,I was faced with all such(though secretly from people which was later revealed).i had two miscarriages and both were 3months but I looked like a 5mnth pregnant lady.only to be told whenever I go for my 3mnths scan that the baby had died in the 1st pregnant with my son Noah was too perfect,he is 3years old but to cut the long story short,God proved himself just 2mnths after my miscarriage and now I’m entering my 3rd trimester.To God be the glory for proving himself after so many insults from even inlaws,church members and those I don’t know.

  • Maryann Obi-Uti Posted March 2, 2016 12:09 pm

    I pray God sees you through every stage and blesses you with Healthy and a cute baby Girl. I also know that no matter what we face in life we shouldn’t give up on God because his word is alive and active in us.I tap into your blessings and I know soon I will come back here to testify.
    God bless your cute family

  • Maryann obi-Uti Posted March 2, 2016 12:12 pm

    OMG 😍🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿🙌🏻🙌🏻😻 A very big congratulations

  • Michelle Posted March 2, 2016 12:25 pm

    God bless your dear heart. I’m a mum of a beautiful boy who I had preterm . And all the symptoms you’ve described – I experienced it, and worse. Was admitted 3times for spotting (around 6 weeks with compulsory bed rest) and other issues with constant hunger and spitting. I’m grateful to God everyday. I look at my baby and even more confident that with God, my next will be a better experience. Wishing you a safe delivery. xx

  • Busola Posted March 2, 2016 1:02 pm

    I’m a first mum but had a set of twins…. I practically didn’t enjoy pregnancy… At 5 months my tummy was already huge that pple tot I was pregnant before I got married… I was always tired and I couldn’t work … I spat all tru pregnancy ( it was so irritating and I was irritated as well) … Doctor even said I had appendicitis while pregnant cos I couldn’t walk without feeling pains in my right abdomen … I keyed into the word of God and the bigger my babies the more the pain… All I wanted was milk and beans, I couldn’t eat anything apart from beans… Thank God my twins are not same sex cos I’m not eager to get pregnant

  • Fissy Posted March 2, 2016 1:22 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story Amaka, it is always inspiring. God is amazing. And I pray that the most high God who put a pregnancy/motherhood smile on your face the first time and now the second time will surely do mine very soon. I have been trying hard for over 1year now, but I haven’t lost hope because I know God has engraved me in the palm of his hands. I love you little family on IG.

  • Anonymous Posted March 2, 2016 1:41 pm

    I visit your Instagram page ‘daily’ (stalker) because I think you have an amazing personality. Funny thing is I’m not following you. So….doing my round today, I viewed your bump dance video. I found myself praying for you right after and looking forward to being preggie. It then struck me that there will be so many others like me who will just say a prayer for you. So…..this is for ghosts like me who never really comment. You truly are an inspiration. Keep it up.

  • MrsA Posted March 2, 2016 2:32 pm

    Wow… God is indeed wonderful.. I am experienced the same thing with my second pregnancy very strange .. Praying to God for a safe delivery.. Wishing u a safe delivery as well ..I pray I v a girl , so herself and Micah can hookup

  • Vera Posted March 2, 2016 2:47 pm

    Ohh Mama Micah.. God bless you so much for this piece. I am a 22years old woman who looks up to u as a role model and a daily inspiration. I always pray that God will bless me a good husband and with beautiful and healthy kids just as he has blessed you. I pray for u that u will give birth safely without hassle just like the Hebrew women in the Bible. Please keep up the good work.. I love you and am glued to your IG page….its my daily dose of inspiration.. God bless u Amaka..

  • Lara Posted March 2, 2016 4:14 pm

    Hello Amaka,
    So last week Monday I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant for our second. On Thursday, I started spotting with cramps and I lost our baby. I refused to leave the Dr’s office and just cried holding my 1st child in my arms. My husband was called from work to come be with me during the evacuation procedure yo remove the remaining bits in my uterus. When he saw me, he held me and we both cried like babies. I never knew what miscarriages felt like until now. And I still tear up when I remember I was pregnant just last week.I can’t imagine what you went through but I know now why you love Micah with everything in you! I look at my daughter these days with all the love and love her more now and I’m more appreciative of the blessing of motherhood. I have told God I want twin boys for this one I lost. And I must testify. AMEN!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:31 pm

    awww. it is well! I know that feeling but God knows best and even though we do not always understand it, especially going through something so difficult, we have to trust in His perfect timing. He gave you a beautiful, healthy daughter and He will do it again and grant you the desires of your heart, Amen! Hold fast the confession of your hope without wavering for He who promised is faithful! I cant wait for you to share your testimony!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:33 pm

    Amen and Amen! Thank you so much for your prayers and well wishes, God bless you and grant you the desires of your heart, Amen!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:37 pm

    Amen and Amen, we will give birth to healthy babies! Your last comment had me “LOL” hehehe you know my Micah is a sweet, sweet boy…

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:40 pm

    Lol, that bump dance video was so not planned but I love it… thank you for your kind words and prayers..Yes, look forward to it.. even with all the fatigue, bloating and not so great side effects, pregnancy such a beautiful journey. God Bless..x

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:44 pm

    Amen! I claim it… thank you so much! Yes do not lose hope, God is so faithful! He has already perfected all that concerns you. I know its much easier said than done but please do not be anxious or think too much about it. Pray about it and leave it to God, He’s got you and please when you have your beautiful, healthy baby.. don’t forget to send a message sharing your testimony, I cant wait…x

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:46 pm

    Aww I know that feeling.. thank God for your twins! I am definitely taking a long break after myself.. lol.. I need it!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 7:59 pm

    We thank for a safe delivery! You mentioned you had him preterm, do you mind disclosing at how many weeks? Your next pregnancy will be much easier in Jesus’ name, Amen!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 8:00 pm

    Amen!! thank you so much and may God grant you the desires of your heart! i cant wait for you to testify!!

  • Makys Corner Posted March 2, 2016 8:03 pm

    Amazing news… congratulations!!!!! Wishing you a safe, easy delivery and a healthy babies. You are one strong mama….
    i will look you up on instagram..x

  • Onyinye Posted March 2, 2016 10:33 pm

    Your story is so close to mine but alittle diffwhen I was pregnant for my first child I didn’t feel anything infant I worked till I was 38weeks plus but with my son it was a different story. I spotted on different occasions and when I was 13weeks I had cervical cerclage on but the funniest thing at the end I went into labour at 29weeks and gave birth to a baby he was so tiny was weighting 1.2kg..I remember how I cried and questioned God,was in an incubator for 50days but today to d Glory of God he’s an healthy baby weighting 4kg at about few days ago…I forward to sharing all my pregnancy journey with u someday from all the miscarriages to the ectopic but in all I thank God for my two heathy kids

  • Mrs O. Posted March 3, 2016 6:41 pm

    Thanks Amaka for this, after reading through your post I felt so much better, seeing how positive you are about everything is amazing. I had a miscarriage at 15weeks late last year after what seemed like a ‘roller coaster’ pregnancy, that was my first pregnancy so I was pretty devastated to say the least, but trusted God that things will work out for my good. God came through for me this year, I am pregnant again but you know there’s this fear that keeps popping up in my head, though I say a quick prayer whenever I feel it coming. You see I’ve been diagnosed as hypertensive and a high BP isn’t good for pregnancy, though I’ve been able to manage it and keep it normal, but with pregnancy it’s tougher to keep the BP low. Anyways I am generally more positive about this pregnancy and pray for a smooth journey. I wish you too a smooth pregnancy and a safe delivery, I’m rooting for a girl! Lol….thanks so much for your blog, I’m sure you have no idea the extent to which you touch people’s lives. God bless you hunnay….x

  • Lawunmi Posted March 4, 2016 3:04 pm

    I almost didn’t post this……Got married in 2014 then lost my first pregnancy at almost 38weeks after in June 2015. We were so devastated. Then I had a miscarriage at 8weeks, four months later. My husband was so strong for both of us, it was by God’s Grace I didn’t fall into depression. Then I stumbled on ur page and read ur testimonies. I keyed into your faith and your prayers. You were and still are such a blessing. God bless u. Found out I was 10 weeks pregnant at a doctor’s appointment some months back and according to the scan and calculations, I fell pregnant approx. 2 weeks after I miscarried. A miracle!
    We are so elated and look forward to our baby’s birth. My husband is so certain it’s a boy…me…all I want is a perfect and healthy baby. God is faithful. God bless u and ur lovely family.

  • Sandra Posted March 4, 2016 7:04 pm

    Hello.. Congrats and thanks for sharing your journey with us. Our God is too good, he will perfect everything that concerns you. I am a mother of one and I am not looking forward to another pregnancy, it was not easy. It was one thing then another, a nurse at some point asked me why all this many things was happening to just me, that even one was enough to shake a family but I had to deal with all, I went home that day and cried my eyes out, then I cried to God and he must have heard cos when I went for my next appointment the next week it was well, I stopped seeing the nurse too but I was around 35 weeks then and had already suffered throughout the pregnancy, I also suffered major tear but in all I thank God. My baby made it all worthy, he is going to turn one soon. One good thing about it all though I think was I learnt or I am learning to not just leave things but pray. When I am having a second, I hope it is different and better. But that is vision2020 or not. Your boy is a little charmer and I look forward to seeing him and his baby sister.. or brother. Can you please share where you shop for Micah? Brands you’d endorse. Thanks! Xx

  • Ade Posted March 5, 2016 11:48 am

    Hi Maky, Congratulations on your pregnancy . You helped me during my pregnancy trials. I had 2 miscarriage before having little William who is now 5 month old . Stumbled on your page when all hope was gone. When I was pregnant with William used Cyclogest that I got from a friend of mine . Over here you are only given progesterone if you’ve had 3 miscarriage or more or over 35. Didn’t want to take it as i wasn’t sure about it but at 7 weeks started spotting. So I started using the progesterone as well as 75ml aspirin, had all form of pregnancy symptoms till I have birth. When my due date came I laboured for 4 days and 11 hrs. At the end I had ceserean but glory be to God. However, they found ecoli on my placenta immediately son was then been given antibiotics for 10days .imagine having to do your naming ceremony in the hospital. But I really thank God cause since I got home my son is doing really well . And he’s way beyond his age. Thank you so much for using this platform to renew our faith .trust me I visit your page every day. In love with Micah. My husband even says Micah and Will look alike lol.

  • Mrs A Posted March 5, 2016 12:39 pm

    Congrats amaka. Thankful for your life… Please what devotionals do u use during pregnancy. Will truly appreciate your response. Thanks… God’s speed. Xx

  • kofo Posted March 5, 2016 12:56 pm

    Hi Amaka, i follow you on instagam and snapchat. I admire you so much. Micah and your hubby are blessed to have you.

  • Temilade Adu Posted March 8, 2016 4:07 pm

    Your posts always hit the right notes no matter the subject. God bless you. The first trimester of my first pregnancy was horrible. From intense nausea to spitting no appetite and serious heart burn and did I mention I spat throughout my pregnancy. I found out that chewing gum helped with the spitting. Then 2nd time around I was hoping things will be different and it was the same cycle again but I knew better now and so with prayer and experience and also a toddler to care for I was a able to pull out fast. I thank God for a healthy pregnancy and I love the community you have created here. Even from the comments one is inspired.

  • Kee Sha Posted March 8, 2016 9:57 pm

    Hi Amaka, like yours, my second ( of 3) pregnancies was very debilitating. I suffered from hyperemisis gravidarum which meant I threw up everything. I lost weight, I had to walk with a spit cup everywhere, and I even threw up even in the delivery room, and my only light at the end of the tunnel was a happy, healthy baby boy with the most amazing skin and head of curls ever! My body was so nutrient deprived by the ninth month that my teeth were shaky. Nonetheless, God in his infinite wisdom always ensures the safety and health of baby, even at mommy’s expense, and I know that for you the best is yet to come. All the best with D- Day.

  • Amarelis Posted March 14, 2016 6:23 pm

    Hi Amaka, am pregnant with my second child. My first trimester was very debilitating. I suffered from hyperemisis gravidarum which meant I threw up everything. I was in the hospital on admission for 3 weeks,i couldn’t provide urine for my doctor for test for 3days. But I thank God i overcame that hurdle and am strong again.

  • Thandie Posted March 17, 2016 10:23 am

    TTC for 5 years now and cant begin to describe all the emotions i go through. How i have remained sane is beyond me. I love your little family, you give me hope. Sometimes jealous *hidesface* This year has been great, im filled with hope and expectations, im sooo anxious to share my testimony because i believe in all of Gods promises! I continue to pray for my little miracle and for all the ladies waitin on their little miracles, dont lose hope. It is well!

  • deba Posted April 14, 2016 3:12 pm

    I think I’m the only teenager here (what am I doing here? Lol) but I honestly love this blog! I’m a strong believer in encouraging people and so I hope that you keep this up. Like they say, there’s something God has called each and every one of us to do, something that no one else can do, and Mrs Benson, this is for you! I hope that you keep it up and stay close to God so you can discover more and more of what He has called you to do. With love,
    A teenage girl.

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